March 23, 2010
The Road To Serfdom, by F.A. Hayek, (in cartoon format).
We are all properly fucked now.
March 21, 2010
Scrolling through the comments section of Infidelity and prole drift at In Mala Fide, I was struck by Snark’s comment to David Alexander:
DA:“You are an alpha, not an idiotic anti-social dysfunctional sub-human male that’s clumsy and bumbling and incapable of making a basic decision. From my perspective, it’s far easier to let her lead and pick everything because there’s a sizable chance that I have no idea of what to do, where to go, or how to do it properly. Why risk the embarrassment?”
Snark:The way to deal with this is to believe that you are always completely correct, and if it comes to it, everybody else is wrong.
Stick fast to this and other people will start admitting that you’re right. See? You always were.
That is so fucking brilliant and so fucking obvious that it is a truth as rare as a diamond. You have to have faith in yourself. It’s one of those things never talked about, because everyone assumes that everyone knows it.
But I–and I suspect, many others–did not; I grew up having no faith in my abilities, and believing that I couldn’t succeed. And because I learned very early on that the price of failure is punishment (either physical or psychological/emotional), I did the only logical thing–I stopped trying. And it had been that way for years, even after the actual threat of punishment ceased to be real (it’s an amazing thing, to realize your father can no longer physically beat you), because the perception of punishment–the fear of punishment–is usually enough to keep you in line.
At some point, you have to develop faith in your own abilities. Amazing how often that is missed.
March 20, 2010
A teacher once told me. “When things go bad, we all want to go home, to the place where we feel safe. We all seek our own comfort level.” Reading Ferdinand’s Infidelity and prole drift post, I think that may be what was behind Jesse James’ infidelity with Michelle McGee, I think that might be what happened: things were beginning to go south in the marriage between Sandra Bullock and James, and he sought out the familiar to take comfort in. The fact that he was previously married to porn star Janine Lindemulder lends strength to my theory.
I mean, lets face it, Ferdinand and Bob Belvedere are right–would you trade this:
Sandra Bullock Blacklund
At first blush, fuck no. But if the first woman won’t go horizontal with you, while the second says, “You can put it in here, and here…and here…”, even a man who utterly loathes tattoos and piercings is going to say, “Well, maybe…”.
It’s not always a question of options–sometimes it’s a question of who makes you feel like you’re at home.
There’s a lesson for women in this, as well: if you want to keep him from seeking comfort elsewhere, provide him with what he wants at home. You can’t treat a man as an accessory. You wouldn’t expect a cat to stick around if you neglected it–why expect it of a man?
And for those of you who might think, “She’s better off without him”, is she better off with the world wondering why she couldn’t keep her man at home? If women marry bad boys, and the bad boys end up straying, no matter how much you blame the man for straying, the fact remains–she failed to tame him, and that’s a failure that she’s going to have a hard time living down.
March 20, 2010
Edit: Now that’s odd–the Rule 5 post shows up under the “We All Seek Our Own Comfort Level” post. Must be because I adjusted the blog’s time-setting function.
Apparently, Jennifer understands the value of distraction in poker…
Distraction--holding a pair
March 18, 2010
“It’s the Internet: guys are guys, girls are guys, and 14-year olds are FBI Agents.”
~Jayson E. Street, Dissecting the Hack: The F0rb1dd3n Network
It’s funny because it’s true.