We all seek our own comfort level.

A teacher once told me. “When things go bad, we all want to go home, to the place where we feel safe. We all seek our own comfort level.” Reading Ferdinand’s Infidelity and prole drift post, I think that may be what was behind Jesse James’ infidelity with Michelle McGee, I think that might be what happened: things were beginning to go south in the marriage between Sandra Bullock and James, and he sought out the familiar to take comfort in. The fact that he was previously married to porn star Janine Lindemulder lends strength to my theory.

I mean, lets face it, Ferdinand and Bob Belvedere are right–would you trade this:

Sandra Bullock Blacklund

For this?:

Michelle McGee

At first blush, fuck no. But if the first woman won’t go horizontal with you, while the second says, “You can put it in here, and here…and here…”, even a man who utterly loathes tattoos and piercings is going to say, “Well, maybe…”.

It’s not always a question of options–sometimes it’s a question of who makes you feel like you’re at home.

There’s a lesson for women in this, as well: if you want to keep him from seeking comfort elsewhere, provide him with what he wants at home. You can’t treat a man as an accessory. You wouldn’t expect a cat to stick around if you neglected it–why expect it of a man?

And for those of you who might think, “She’s better off without him”, is she better off with the world wondering why she couldn’t keep her man at home? If women marry bad boys, and the bad boys end up straying, no matter how much you blame the man for straying, the fact remains–she failed to tame him, and that’s a failure that she’s going to have a hard time living down.


6 Responses to We all seek our own comfort level.

  1. TAllagash says:

    i’m guaranteeing mcgee was down wiht ATM and all other kinds of sordid-ness. she also knew he was a bad boy…she wagered her (foolhardy) narcicism that she could change him…against his bad boy known ways. just like the guys that try to turn hoes into housewives. victimhood for women rears its ugly head again.

  2. bobbelvedere says:

    Good points [thanks for the link], but one thing that gets forgotten in all of this is that Jesse James gave his word in the sight of God and family and friends that he would be faithful. He therefore has a moral obligation not to stray and, if he wanted to stray, then he had the option of ending the marriage. He chose to be dishonorable, to cast honor aside. As men, we have an duty to try and be noble for the sake of preserving civilization.

    • theblanque says:

      Has it been forgotten? I doubt the general public feels very sympathetic toward James right now. Yeah, James fucked up–but so did Bullock, in either her selection of a husband, or her commitment to the marriage, or both. A marriage is a partnership, and a partnership means both parties have to take responsibility for keeping the partnership going. I see plenty of people dumping on James in all of this–I see damn few taking Bullock to task.

      And it’s a little late to be talking about duty and honor; those are the values of a civilized society–ours ceased to be such many years ago. Stop the average man on the street and tell him he has a duty to try and be noble for the sake of preserving civilization, and the immediate question that will spring into his head (though he probably won’t voice it) is, “What’s in it for me?“. Dumping responsibility and hardship on an entire gender without compensatory benefits is slavery–and it doesn’t become any less so because the ties that bind are ideas like duty and honor instead of physical shackles.

  3. newly divorced says:

    I agree with the last post. He should have just gotten a divorce. There’s no need to be a cheating sleezebag.

    Also, it is extremely uncool to risk giving Sandra STD’s from that skank that he’s cheating with.

    • theblanque says:

      And she could have taken care of her end of the marriage–no need to be a cold fish.

      You obviously don’t have very good reading skills if you think I’m blaming James in this issue.

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